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Brett Marshall Gemberling, 39, of Charlotte, N.C., passed away on Thursday, June 30, 2022.
He was born December 9, 1982 in Ephrata, P.A., to Barry Lee Gemberling and Jane Ann (Brewer) Gemberling. He spent most of his childhood in Lititz, P.A., before his family moved to Charlotte in 1993. There, he attended Reedy Creek Elementary School and Piedmont Open IB Middle School. Brett enjoyed playing youth soccer, basketball, baseball, and football, both in school and in the community.
While attending Independence High School, he was an award-winning varsity tennis and varsity soccer player (playing the position of goalie). Also in high school, he embarked on his first and only trip out of the country to Italy, an experience that he often reminisced about.
Drawn to the mountains and the cool temperatures that he enjoyed in Pennsylvania, Brett chose to attend Appalachian State University in Boone, N.C., where he studied journalism. While at ASU and living in Boone, he played soccer for the university club team and on community leagues, establishing lasting friendships with his coaches and fellow players.
A new chapter of Brett’s life began when he picked up a part-time job working in the kitchen at the Red Onion Café. This opportunity blossomed into a lifelong passion for cooking and food preparation that drove a career in the service and hospitality industry.
The care and attention to detail he brought to his work was evident, and eventually, he was promoted to assistant executive chef and kitchen manager. In partnership with his colleagues at the Red Onion and with support from local food vendors, Brett helped transform the restaurant into a local gem known for its farm-to-table culinary delights. He even began growing food for the restaurant as part of a volunteer collaboration at Springhouse Farm in nearby Vilas, N.C.
One of Brett’s signature creations for the restaurant, the Blue Ridge Plate, sold out on many occasions. It featured bibb and red leaf lettuce, dijon-thyme vinaigrette, roasted beet medley, curried apples, cherry tomato medley, micro greens, and crispy fried goat cheese.
During this time, Brett also discovered an abounding love of nature and the outdoors. He spent many weekends camping, hiking, and waterfall diving with friends at beloved spots along the Blue Ridge Parkway, such as Grandfather Mountain.
After 17 years in Boone, Brett wanted to be closer to home to help his aging parents. In 2018, he returned to Charlotte and expanded his career as a chef, working in dining services for Southminster and taking on additional opportunities to cook at well-known Charlotte area eateries, including the four-diamond McNinch House Restaurant.
A knee injury prevented Brett from continuing to play soccer, but he fell in love with the sport of disc golf, to the point where he played nearly every day, sometimes twice. His favorite course was Reedy Creek Park, but he also enjoyed playing at Sugar Creek and Idlewild Road. He was known to wear brightly colored sneakers and shorts that reflected the colors of his discs, and he played hip hop and electronic music on a Bluetooth speaker that he carried with him.
During the final 10 months of his life, Brett worked in the kitchen at 300 East, where he felt safe and valued by his family of coworkers. He often told friends and family that his manager and fellow staff were among the finest he’d worked with in his 20-year career. Despite the challenges placed upon the food service industry in recent years, Brett was dedicated to his craft and derived great satisfaction from connecting people through food.
Brett grew up an avid fan of Penn State University football – he attended five bowl games in Florida and numerous trips with his father and sister to State College, P.A., for home games, always yearning for a national championship year after year. He also loved his Carolina Panthers, and each fall season, Brett’s life was monopolized – for better or worse – by fantasy football, as he managed his own league and participated on several teams at once.
He enjoyed trips to the shore in Avalon, N.J., as a child, and in his adulthood, he spent many long weekends in Charleston, S.C., with his family, fishing for red drum with his sister and unapologetically critiquing meals at some of the city’s finest dining establishments.
Though he had many accomplishments in life, Brett was proudest of his relationships with his family and the hundreds of lives he touched with his friendship. His friends and family will tell you that he was a selfless person who always put the needs of others before his own. He never met a stranger, and he could talk to anyone about any subject, especially given his great knowledge of what his family affectionally called “useless information.” He was also very proud of his well-kept collection of houseplants, which he slowly allowed to take over his home.
Brett was also known as the ultimate goofball with a quirky sense of humor that consisted of spot-on impressions and the repeating of famous television and movie quotes. It was impossible not to laugh when Brett was around, and his hilarious “one-liners” will be remembered and repeated by those who loved him for years to come.
We wish he would have been given more time with us; he will be deeply missed by many.
Brett was preceded in death by his aunt, Connie Reed, uncle, Todd Gemberling, and his grandparents.
He is survived by his loving family: father, Barry Gemberling; mother, Jane Carroll (Richard Carroll); sister, Kyra Molinaro (Tyler Molinaro); six uncles and aunts; and many cousins.
The family will hold a celebration of life on Aug. 27 at Springhouse Farm. In lieu of flowers, please share with us your memories of Brett and how he touched your life.
Carolina Cremation of Charlotte and Salisbury is assisting the Gemberling family. Online condolences may be made at www.carolinacremation.com.
Kathy Gemberling says
Dear Barry, Jane, Richard, Tyler, and Kyra,
I am hoping you will find some comfort in the love and memories your heart will always hold on to- I love Brett and will always remember him diving into the cold ocean water in Avalon without a care in the world! He is such a sweet soul- always listening, learning, and above all caring. May you find peace and strength in the days ahead. Love, Kathy Gemberling
Heather Hill says
Brett was a good friend of my husband, and I’m grateful to have known him. When our first child was born, he brought a crate of various squash and pumpkins as a baby gift. That crate of food helped nourish all three of us throughout the fall and winter. It was an unconventional gift though it really reflected Brett’s thoughtful nature. We will miss him dearly and will grieve with you for a long time to come.
Bryan Parsons says
Dear Barry, Jane, Kyra, and family,
I want to first express my deepest sympathies to you and your entire family for Brett’s passing. I cannot imagine the heartbreak. I have and will continue to keep you all in my prayers. I know that all of Brett’s friends must be devastated by his passing, as well.
I want to send a note describing the impact that Brett has had on my life. My hope is that this adds to what is certain to be many, many stories about the lives he touched in a life that has been cut entirely too short.
As far as I’m concerned, I had two childhood “best” friends, and Brett was my first. Brett and I became fast friends when we met in 5th grade at Reedy Creek Elementary, then continued being “joined at the hip” through Piedmont Middle School and Independent High School. We rode the bus together every single day. I remember so many things about our friendship during those years, but a few things stand out to me all of these years later.
The first is his sense of humor. As you all know all too well, Brett was one of the wittiest people I’ve known. When we were teenagers, it was not uncommon for us to stay up (very) late on many weekend sleepovers laughing hysterically through the latest episodes of MADtv and Saturday Night Live. Now that I am a parent of two kids, I am confident that we were not as sneaky about staying up late as I thought we were at the time. The best part of those sleepovers wasn’t just watching the shows, but laughing about the sketches and repeating lines on an endless loop for months (years, actually) after. If I recall correctly, one of Brett’s favorite MADtv sketches was Lowered Expectations (still cracks me up to this day). I believe we both agreed that Norm Macdonald was the best Weekend Update host of all time. Norm’s “You guessed it, Frank Stallone” bit stuck with Brett. He referenced that bit for years and it was funny every time.
The second is his generosity and graciousness. He was the kind of friend that did not care whether you were considered “cool,” wore the right clothes, listened to the right music, or anything like that. He simply extended friendship unconditionally. To be honest, that is a pretty rare trait for kids that age. I certainly did not have it, but Brett did and I was made better by his friendship. I was an only child growing up, but Brett made me feel like I wasn’t alone at all. In fact, he made me feel like we had been brothers all along. It is not an exaggeration to say that — in so many ways — Brett demonstrated what it meant to be a friend, and that has fundamentally shaped that way I approach friendships to this day.
While we only communicated occasionally in our 20s and 30s, we remained connected on social media. I have to say that I was so impressed with the direction his culinary career took after college. I always enjoyed seeing all of the pictures of the delicious-looking food he prepared. I was so proud of the man (and chef!) he became.
As you all may already know, Brett and I experienced our fair share of bumps in the road in our friendship during our college years. We spent too long not reconciling during those years, but made our attempts to do so as our time in college came to a close. None of the bumps in the road, nor the degree to which we went our separate ways in life, changes the impact he has had on my life. I am grateful for that and am a better person for knowing him.
I am cannot express just how sorry I am about the loss of a son, brother, and friend to so many. I can only hope that the memories you have, and those shared by others, will provide some degree of comfort and peace in time.
With sympathy,
Bryan Parsons
Keith Conner says
Kyra and Barry I have never met your brother or son but the messages from friends of his is quite a testament to what he meant to so many My deepest condolences to you all I’ve experienced that loss of siblings My heart ❤️ is saddened by your loss